Have you all seen the excellent article in the April Ensign? I have a number of friends who struggle with this, and I've often felt that I've been an inadequate friend in this area. It's just such an unfair thing. We all have righteous desires, and sometimes those desires just are not met. It is one of the great ironies of life that some of the people who I know would be the best parents EVER (the V's, for example), don't get to have the blessing of children right now. And I remember going to lunch with them when I was barely pregnant with Dean, and almost wanting to apologize for my fecundity. Because I wanted them to have that happiness too. And I know that she would think that's silly, because she's such a compassionate, charitable person, that she is thrilled for our growing family. But as a friend, I didn't want my happiness to cause them even an iota of regret for that which was not theirs.
But you know, we all experience something of that. There are things that we all desire that we cannot yet have. When Luke was having his worst health problems, I remember pleading on my knees for some sort of resolution, and nothing happening - for years. I ached and cried and was sometimes resentful and often wondered what we could do better to have this taken away from us. But sometimes the Lord sees fit to allow His will to be done by not removing a burden. I really enjoyed the quote one sister shared in this article. "When someone has an ailment or an illness [or a trial] and they are healed [or the trial is lifted] as the result of a blessing, their faith is being strengthened. But for those who aren't healed but continue faithful, their faith is being perfected. The first is a faith-promoting experience. The second is faith-perfecting."
I wish that those I love could have all the desires of their hearts. I hope that those struggling with infertility are met with compassion on all sides. I hope I can be a better friend.